The final first | 19:58 |
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I havent written anything for years now since I lost my dog Max as there have been too many losses. Lost my brother Bill on 6th August 2018 when my son Damon found him on a hot summer morning asleep on top of his bed, fan on, in his birthday suit. Not asleep, but passed away. Peacefully. He had suffered for a few years, been hospitalised for many many weeks, coma. But we thought he was improving. It was a terrible shock for my Damon, who loved his uncle and looked after him. On 6th August 2020, myself and Damon saw each other alive for the last time, celebrating my brothers life and death. One of the last things Damon said to me before going home was dont cry mum, wouldnt we all like to have a peaceful death like that, in our sleep. Little did I know that two days later myself and daughter Kate would find my darling boy the same, a hot August day, fan on, laying asleep on his bed, in his birthday suit, but not asleep. It was an agonising two weeks because of the deaths with corona virus that the coroner did a post mortem and my boy died of a blood clot in his heart, death instantaneous the coroner told me, so no suffering.
Damon had been diagnosed with a brain tumour, but not cancerous, an acoustic neuroma, which effected his sight and hearing and made him very fatigued. But Kings were pleased it wasnt growing. But if only I had realised that his fatigue could have been heart related, like my brother, and myself and our mother, then maybe we could have saved him. But that awful corona got in the way and stopped many of us going to doctors and seeking help.
I thought the death of mum, then dad, then my brother which I felt much more than mum and dad. But nothing can prepare you for the death of your child. Damon wasnt a baby, I had him for 48 years 1 month and 1 day. But it wasnt enough. It will never be enough.
Tomorrow 7th September 2021 is the last of the firsts. It was the last day I saw my darling boy, not alive, but in his coffin, and then his funeral and cremation. I had my first christmas without him, then New Year, then Mothers Day, then my birthday, then what would have been his 49th birthday on 7th July 2021, then his first anniversary of his death 8th August 2021.
This is the last of the Firsts. But I know it wont get any better.
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Farewell my dear old boy, I miss you x
Eternal June | 07:39 |
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new summerhouse with lots of my old furniture tarted up with a bit of paint.Mum and dads fireplace with mums Hercules and vases on top
Max almost 11 years old now
old garden furniture covered with some calico slipcovers i ran up
My son Damons old tub chair, covered in some duck egg faux suede and my daughter Kates old sofa bed covered in same, with mum and dads old bureau painted, you guessed my favourite colour, duck egg
an old cupboard i bought many years ago, painted and wallpapered with memories of my children, parents and grandparents on
Princess Victoria Louise Oriental poppy
one of my own orientals
Madame Gregoire Stachelin climbing rose, hanging her beautiful head
my old wicker bench bought for £25 about 30 years ago from B & Q, with one of my favourite materials Fairford by Jane Churchill -lovely Fair Rosamund, Rosa mundi roses on a duck egg background
Constance Spry peeking through a golden hop
Constance spry again
Emily Gray
Despres au Fleur Jaune again
Fantan Latour
a view from my potager looking down towards house and summerhouse
my favourite bench
A new beginning? | 07:25 |
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My dear dad, William Henry Golding, as he would introduce himself to one and all, had a very happy and healthy life until a couple of months before his death, and so my New Year resolution is to try and live the rest of what I have left being as happy as my dad and spend it doing what I like best, gardening and being with my family. And to try my hardest to become a little selfish (it will be difficult) and indulge myself for a change.
Reunited with mum now :)
Friends | 00:33 |
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Sue has always been an artist and is currently painting dog portraits, a genre in which she is incredibly talented. Sue painted my German Shepherd Max(from a photo taken by my son- in -law Luke posted before on this blog)- Max's portrait now hangs proudly on my sitting room wall, and dear Eileen wouldnt let me pay for Sue's expenses and paid for it herself. Thank you dear Eileen, I will never forget you xxx
I have found another talented dog artist, non other than Kim Sears, Andy Murray's girlfriend.(Everyone knows that Andy is my favourite tennis player, so I wont go on about Wimbledon here!) Her blog, http://kimsears.com/wp/ shows some of her amazing work. I would love a portrait of my dear departed Stimpy, but dont think my meagre income would amount to a Kim Sears work, or even my dear Sue McGookin alas!
rather late..... | 00:12 |
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I just found this on my laptop which i obviously had meant to post on my birthday, 6th April, and for some reason I didnt (If I remember rightly I spent hours looking through old photos and records)
Last week was my birthday and I spent a pretty nice day with my son Damon, in the garden and at home, nothing special, but all the same a lovely day. We got around to talking about when I die, what would he like from the home, and he said the antique gramophone (I have two, one a family piece and another left to me by a neighbour) Damon amused me by saying he could use both for some retro dj scratching and conversation then got around to records. I decided to clear said gramophone out to get Damon some old records out and then discovered some lovely pics of my boy when he was young (now almost 39) and then found my favourite photo of me aged almost 16, taken 3 weeks before my birthday on Euston tube station by my friend Sue (we had obviously been to some gig or the other) I thought I had lost the photo a few years back and was very pleased to find it on my birthday, my day brightened up :)
Missing Stimpy | 00:02 |
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He did love a cushion to lay his dear head on.....
or to snuggle up to a tiger.......
or lay on his favourite chair............
In Barbies four poster bed......dont know how he got in there, but he didnt want to get out!
in the bathroom basin when he was just a kitten
playing football in the garden
his other favourite position, legs all akimbo..........
yes, he did love that basin...........
and mummys bed........
and Kate's bed too, hugging the toy that was meant for my first grandson Dallas!